D is for Dedication
Welcome back to the Single Dad Zone. In speaking to many single dads, I have found the struggles and obstacles I faced are commonplace. I also found many resources for single moms, but few for single dads. I created the Single Dad Zone to be a place for us to share what we have learned to be better and more efficient dads.
This is an A to Z series on the three core areas where I believe single dads need to focus: Mindset, Fitness and Organization. D is for Dedication.
D is for Dedication
I have been getting up way before the crack of dawn lately for this workout program I am doing. I am dedicated to it. At 4:30am, the alarm clock starts ringing. I look over and my bleary eyes can almost make out the snooze button, but I know I need to get up. If I hit snooze, I will not have time to get ready, get the kids ready and get us all out the door to be on time. I am dedicated to completing this program.
I was thinking about one of the most important traits a person can have when I was thinking about D. D is for dedication is definitely one of them. I truly respect people who are dedicated. A well grounded successful single dad is dedicated to his kids, his career, his health, and eventually, he will be dedicated to a new relationship. He is dedicated to living the best life possible.
Why is D for dedication and what is dedication? I often talk about commitment, but dedication is the next level. Dedication requires commitment, devotion and focus on a particular purpose. A dedicated person is willing to do anything to make sure he succeeds. When you half-ass something, you are doing it a disservice and will never succeed at it. Whatever it is. Dedication requires sacrifice. There will be times when it feels impossible to keep moving forward, but dedication will get you there. A dedicated person will never give up.
I am dedicated to being healthy and fit. It is important to me for many reasons. I am currently doing a workout program called The 80 Day Obsession. Dedication can sometimes be confused with obsession. An obsession is actually unhealthy. An obsession is something you constantly think about and feel compelled to it. A dedication is something you think about because you want to and it is part of your purpose. I guess 80 Day Dedication does not have the same ring.
You have to be dedicated to your kids. They rely on you. Until they get older, you are their glue in this world. Again, dedication requires sacrifice. There will be times when there are things you want to do, but can’t. Do you want to sit and do homework when you can be watching a great game? Probably not, but because you are dedicated, you do what you have to do to help your kids grow into mature, well-adjusted, successful adults.
If you want success in your career, you have to be dedicated. You have to be willing to put in the extra hours and to go above and beyond. It is not easy, but it is worth it.
A good relationship requires dedication. Your partner has to be part of your purpose. Temptations are everywhere. Unless you are dedicated, you will eventually succumb to them. When you are dedicated, you want to do everything within your power to make that person happy.
D is for dedication because people who are dedicated, can find success in every area of their life. It is a much deeper than just being commited. When you are dedicated, it is part of your purpose in life.