C is for Choice
Welcome back to the Single Dad Zone. In speaking to many single dads, I have found the struggles and obstacles I faced are commonplace. I also found many resources for single moms, but few for single dads. I created the Single Dad Zone to be a place for us to share what we have learned to be better and more efficient dads.
C is for Choice
This is an A to Z series on the three core areas where I believe single dads need to focus: Mindset, Fitness and Organization. C is for Choice.
I have been checking out the YouTube page of David Atkins after seeing him live. He talks about the most important thing between a stimulus and an action. It is the choice. Everyday we are confronted with all kinds of stimuli and in between we need to make a choice before we take action. We get to decide how our C is for Choice will turn out.
The stimulus can be as simple as a tempting donut, the option to hop on the couch and binge watch Netflix or to react angrily to something your ex-spouse did or did not do.
In life, there is one thing we control and that is our choices. I’ve made many bad ones, but I feel like I have made many more good ones. Each choice we make comes with consequences. Sometimes, the consequences do not have any long term effect. For example, eating that donut one time is not going to cause any harm. On the other hand, if we act out in anger and hurt someone, that can come with everlasting consequences.
The culmination of many choices results in whether we are happy and satisfied with life or whether we wallow in self-pity. One of my favorites books is Man’s Search for Meaning. The best quote from the book is this one:
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
When I read that, it really struck me. Despite living in a Concentration Camp with unimaginable evil happening every single day around him, he said he still had the decision to choose his attitude despite the circumstance. It is up to us to define our C is for Choice.
Life is really just a series of choices. Sometimes, we are unable to control the result, but we can control the choice. When making our choices, knowing how important they are, it is essential that we pause and consider the consequences. Acting hastily does not always work in our favor.
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